Farewell to Germany

I’m currently sat in the departure area (it couldn’t be described as a lounge!) at Frankfurt Hahn airport awaiting our flight back to the UK. We should arrive back at Stansted Airport around 3pm GMT.

It has just been announced that the flight is delayed by 30 mins – well, Jenny was always late for everything!

This morning has been a lot more difficult than I thought it would when leaving the clinic. We all had an early breakfast in the clinic an a lot of the people there came to wish us all well. I managed to speak to the nursing staff, administration and Dr. Herzog himself and expressed our gratitude for all their efforts. All Jenny’s medical teams have been amazing over the last 4 years and I’ll be eternally grateful for all their efforts. However, Dr. Herzog was the one medical person who gave her hope when all other options had been exhausted. As long as Jenny wanted treating, he would continue to treat her – that was all we both wanted to hear.

The send off from the clinic was amazing and very moving for all of us. Special bonds were made and friendships cemented all under the positive banner of what most of us now regard as the premier private cancer clinic anywhere in the world – only the best for Jenny.

We’ll be boarding soon as then I suppose the hard work will really start after we land. Originally I didn’t want Jenny to die in Germany but all things considered there was a large amount of comfort that I took from the fact it happened in a place where we had both met amazing people and experienced a positive, life changing couple of months. In hindsight I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way. We knew this was a long shot before we left the UK but like everything Jenny and I embarked on together we gave it everything and for that I have no regrets.

We will be reunited soon. Keep The Faith. xx

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  1. Roland & Belinda

    Andy,
    We can’t tell you how deeply saddened we are to hear of Jenny’s death. We feel so blessed to have shared our time at the clinic with you both and we have many happy memories. A cancer clinic seems like such a depressing place to be but we found the atmosphere there so uplifting thanks to people like you two. There was always laughter dispite the dreadful situation we’d all found ourselves in. I hope you realise Andy what an amazing support you must have been to Jenny, I’m sure everyone at the clinic with us would agree that you were the ultimate “jockstrap”.
    Love and hugs to you Andy and to Gemma
    we are thinking of you
    Roland & Belinda xx

  2. MrsLouise

    I am so very very sorry for your loss, sometimes there are simply no words that can offer any comfort but i have learnt from this blog that you and your beautiful wife are truly inspirational, you both fought an almighty battle with such grace, dignity and elegance.

    You do not know me and i have never had the pleasure of meeting your lovely jenny either. I first learnt of this blog via a friends facebook page and i have read on with hope and interest ever since the first blog entry. I am a palliative care nurse, i love my job and i am privileged for every single second i get to spend with my awe inspiring patients. However Andy, your beautiful, honest and heartfelt posts have taught me such a great deal. While i pride myself on providing the best care possible, this has been an amazing insight into the real journeys of patients and their beloved families. One day in the future, i truly beleive that this blog should be made into a book and published. I have shed many tears reading your posts, but mostly, i am truly privileged to have been allowed to follow your journey and so many others would benefit.
    God bless, with love and deepest sympathy to everyone touched by jenny,
    Louise xxx

  3. Lee

    To all the Roberts, Roe and Standish family’s,

    I am at a loss to find the right words here! Jenny has been the most amazing lady, she fort so bravely for such a long time. But by her side she had the love and support of Andy, Gemma and all her close family and friends – which much have given Jenny the courage and love she needed.

    We have to hope dreams do come true….. Keep the faith.

    Lee Xxxxx

  4. Justine Clare

    I can’t quite believe that you’re gone Jen, although when I was with you last weekend I guess I knew that we were really up against it and tried to prepare myself for what was coming, but how do you do that? Can’t quite imagine how things will be from now on without you, you’ve been in my life for all of it and I always just took forgranted that us four girls would grow old together. It goes without saying how much I already miss you and always will. At least you’re finally out of the pain kiddo, and you can rest easy now. See you in a couple of days when you get home. Love Juzza.xxxxxx

  5. Daphne Brown

    To Andy, Cathy, Gemma, Helen and Justine,

    I’ve had the absolute pleasure of knowing Jenny since our uni days and I have many, many amazing memories of the good times I shared with Jenny.

    The parts which stick out in my mind were when we lived together in Manchester and then Liverpool: from the many times when Jenny travelled back with me to Northern Ireland (everywhere Jenny seemed to go in NI she was adored!), to when I would go across to Birkenhead and devour Cathy’s awesome sunday dinners!

    I’m very proud to call Jenny one of my best mates and I told her on many an occasion from the run up to leaving England and since coming over to Australia last year, that I’ll always be thankful to Jenny for giving me the push I needed to get my act together and come back to oz, and the importance of being happy!

    Jenny’s a diamond and will be fondly remembered by everyone who met her.

    I will miss her dearly.

    Thinking of you all and sending lots of love,

    daphne

    xxxKTFxxx

  6. Gail

    Try to take some comfort from Germany Andy. It was what Jen wanted more than anything, it was her faith and hope that drew her to take on such a brave and determined action. She said to me one day that going to Germany was her reaching to the stars, and didn’t she just? No one could had fought a more dignified fight but sadly it wasn’t meant to be x I’ll never forget that conversation it was so inspirational. I’m proud and honoured to have been a very tiny part in Jens fight and will always see her as a bright star now when I look up to the sky x Safe journey and love to you all xxxx

  7. John and Carol

    Andy,
    Sorry to hear of your great loss,we only spent 3 weeks with you guys at the clinic but it was obvious you both were very special people who touched everyone you both came in to contact with.Our thoughts are with you in this sad time in your life but remember all those fantastic times you both spent together.

    Love Carol and John xxxxx

  8. John & Mary

    Andy, we were absolutely privileged to have you and Jenny as neighbours and friends at the clinic. Even in your worst times you were both ready to reach out to help us and others, even to the extent of sharing some therapeutic ales at Nidda with Mark and myself! You got us through with your laughter, compassion, and spirit. Your loss is our loss too. I know Jenny is at peace and just wants you to take your time to rebuild your life. We’ll never forget her and will always be inspired by you both.

    A big hug from both of us, Andy, and please stay in touch.

    Love.
    John & Mary

  9. Nighat Arnold

    Dear Andy, Gemma, Cathy, Helen, Justine and Popo,

    I remember first meeting Jenny way back when we were students at Stephenson house in 2002. Its funny how paths cross through life, I never imagined at that time our paths would cross again 5 years later at a chance meeting and a girlie lunch. Over the past 5 years that I have got to know Jenny I feel privileged to have known such a wonderful person that she was. She was a true inspiration and a beautifully strong, courageous person. I will so miss the chats and laughs we used to have (as well as catching up on celebrity/tv gossip and sharing some retail therapy tips!).

    Through this journey we have got to know those around Jenny and the people in her life. We feel truly blessed to have been part of her life and to meet the lovely genuine people around her.

    We will miss her,

    Lots of love & hugs,

    Niggy, Jon, Ben & Sophia xxxxxKeepTheFaithxxxxxx

  10. June

    Damsy,Cath,Helen,Justine and all of Jenny’s lovely family…..
    Our Deepest Sympathy to you all for loss of a precious daughter, a treasured sister and a beautiful person loved by all the family….Jenny was the most courageous, strong dignified person I ever had the pleasure to know and Love, a true inspiration to us all…one of life’s rare treasures in human form…Jenny is out of all her pain, God keep Her safe for us all down here…where we will always “KEEP THE FAITH” in Her memory.
    Memories are ways of holding onto Jenny’s love and all the joy she gave to everyone that was blessed to have known Her….and through Jenny’s plight to fight her illness I got to know you…her family…our thoughts are with you all….June and Family xxxx

  11. Jane

    Andy I’m glad your coming home with fond memories of Germany. You’re right in that it was a fitting place for Jen to pass away as although lots of her friends and family could not access you or Jen , she was in the place that gave her the most hope and that in itself is priceless. I know that things will be difficult when you get home but you will find your way . You have all of your lovely family and friends here to suport you and a whole new bunch of dear friends that you will no doubt be getting in touch with soon. Safe flight xxxxxxxx

  12. Joanne Mitchell

    HI Andy and Family

    I work with Jill Hamilton at IRC; we have ALL been following Jen’s blog update everyday and she is remembered each day by us. Jill has kept the fundraising going with lots of lovely lovely cakes and made them absolutely perfectly each time. I know you don’t know me at all but we all just wanted to say our thoughts and very best wishes are with you and your families… Jen is in Rainbow Bridge now looking down and no doubt wishing everyone to keep positive and Keep the Faith.

    with love; Jo x x

  13. June

    Andy,
    It’s no wonder everyone at the clinic gave you a heartfelt send off….both You and Jenny are simply the “BEST” and only the “BEST” was ever good enough for our Jenny! Never regret,You and Jenny did it all “your way”. This journey was never going to be easy, you both embarked on it with an open heart…faith,hope and love was the only way for Jenny and you were her “rock”, the love of Her life….forever…
    Happy memories are hiding places for your unforgotten treasures…Jenny was a treasure of the rarest, and you are blessed having shared your lives together with absolute Love and Devotion…treasured memories last forever your life will continue as a journey to stay vital as Jenny did…She fought with dignity right to the end and you Love her for that. We have all been so inspired by you both…always “Keep The Faith”, she is that brightest diamond of a star in the sky…stay close and know that she is there shining the brightest…
    Your journey of Hope will have enriched you by the amazing friends You and Jenny made at the clinic…the true kindness of others makes for life long friendships between you all…
    Thinking of you….and Jenny…I am bereft..KTF..xxx

  14. matthew nolan

    Andrew safe flight mr ….. You have been amazen when iam in the pool you be getting a big man hug stay stay strong …Jen will be with you everywere xx

  15. Jo & Vinny

    Andy, Gemma and the Roe-Roberts gang,

    You are all in our thoughts and we’ll forever hold Jen as an inspiration. ‘”What Would Jenny Do?’ is my new mantra to kick me in the arse when I’m feeling scared, anxious, miserable or unappreciative. Andy, you and Jenny have made a huge impact on so many people’s lives – many people you’ve known for years, many who have only recently had the pleasure of knowing you. Both of you have humbled us, inspired us and made us think just a little bit more about taking the time to talk, smile, listen to others, whether we know them or not. You’ve shown us the essence of love, compassion and humanity.

    Keep the faith and pay it forward.

    Jo & Vinny x

  16. Jill Hamilton

    Keeping the Faith Andy. I will see you both soon. Xxxxxx

  17. Iain, Emma and Michael

    Jenny’s strength and determination will live on in you, and everyone whose life she touched. We are all indeed to lucky ones for having had the opportunity to have met and loved Jenny.

    Keep the Faith, and Keep The Memory!

    x

  18. Claire Standish

    Andy, we all think you are amazing and everything you have done for Jenny has been remarkable; you’ve showed the most incredible courage, strength and belief, and made Jenny herself, and everyone who follows this blog and knows you, beyond proud. You fought to the end and never gave up hope – a true rock to Jenny. She sleeps peacefully now, knowing that her husband loved her more than anything and stood side by side with her until the end and forever onwards. Take care Andy; if you need anything at all, you know where we are; please just ask. All our love to you and see you very soon. Mark, Claire and Thomas xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  19. Lizzy George

    Oh god! Sorry your final memory of Germany will be Frankfurt (not in Frankfurt at all) Hahn! Went home from there at Christmas and never again!! Hang on in there! Lots of love, Lizzy. xxx

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